You Don't Look Sick
by Jennifer Zuna
"You Don't Look Sick."
These are the four most dreaded words in the English language to anyone who suffers from a non visible pain condition. I don't wear casts, I'm not in a wheelchair, I don't walk around with a scarlet P on my forehead for pain.
It's very difficult to get adults who don't suffer this to understand what I feel and what I go through on a daily basis. Now try explaining something like this to a four and six year old. Why can't mommy ride bikes with us? Why do we have to keep stopping so mommy can sit down? Why can't mommy give us a bath tonight? There are hundreds more questions like that every day. To them mommy looks fine so why is she so cranky and why can't she do these million things they want?
Believe me I want nothing more than to be able to hike, swim, ride bikes and everything else their little hearts desire. And don't get me wrong, when I have good days I do everything I possibly can. Unfortunately the flip side of that is I am usually in even more pain as a result. I honestly have to say it's worth it though. Spending time with the boys and seeing them active and healthy makes me feel good.
I'm very blessed also that my husband is such a great and involved dad. He is constantly planning activities whether I can go or not. He picks up the slack in a big big way and I can't express how much that means to me. My boys are very compassionate also and that makes me feel like I'm really doing right by them as a mom.
|Jennifer is a stay at home mom to two beautiful boys. She has been married to her wonderful husband for 11 years this coming June. She also suffers from chronic debilitating pain on a daily basis. I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Interstitial Cystitis, and Migraines. I have arthritis in my spine and both knees and hands. She blogs at Parenting With Pain|