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Thursday, April 26, 2012

Hello Ladies,

Before sharing how I juggle motherhood and my quest as published author, I want to welcome baby Desmond in the world and congratulate Marlie's mum and dad for the lovely new addition. Happy new second time motherhood to our lovely Teresha. 
Now, onto me.

by TOI

I am a mother for only five months but I wonder how mothers of two or more manage their time and their chosen careers, especially writers. Even before getting pregnant I wanted to find balance between motherhood and my quest to get published. Currently I am trying hard to combine my love of caring of my daughter and my love for writing, however sometimes I feel like pulling my hair off because though my daughter doesn't request my time every second, she is getting to the stage where she knows I am not giving her attention. writewithmum So when it comes to motherhood juggling act and my quest as published author I am learning to not be afraid to leave few things undone. For instance I might have mountain of plates to wash but when my child wants to feed or wants to play my time is for her. But as soon as she falls asleep it is not a crime to take some time off to write, even if is only half an hour. Another thing I am learning is to never be afraid to ask my husband to help. We don't live close by our family members so we are both juggling parenthood together. 
For instance my husband helps me with the cooking and washing the dishes. He likes cooking and sharing in the choirs and he doesn’t mind doing some diaper changes. He is very helpful in all that.lunch
A month ago I started a writer's writing club. The nights when I meet up with my fellow writers hubby comes home from work on time to look after our daughter for the two hours I am out. He sees that moment as bonding time with our daughter. I believe motherhood and my writing are going along nicely, just because I have a great daughter and a supportive husband whom give me time to put my creativity to work.

All the above rambling just to say that when it comes to juggling motherhood and my pursuit as a published author, my remedy is to seek support from my husband and not feel guilty if I write when my child is asleep.

rockingmotherhoodTOI is a new mother, a writer, a world traveler, a trilingual lady blogging about her life journey at Life of TOI. She loves to photograph, paint, read, listen to music and being a SHMW {stay at home mummy writer} to one lovely daughter. She currently documenting her life in Canada, after living in Europe for more than 20 years.


Mrs. Pancakes said...

I'm sure it cab hard to find balance but it sounds like you are able to with supports! Thanks for the reminder it's ok to bask our hubbies for help when we need it!

Jewels For Hope said...

I am not a mother so I don't have any advice for you on juggling both. But I bet you are doing a great job- learning as you go. I wish you the best of luck in mommy-hood and your writing :)

Anonymous said...

Oh I understand! I always want more time to write and I always want more time with my daughter. The two don't always go hand in hand, but you will find a way!

Unknown said...

What a great post! I love to hear how other's all balancing all this work!

Theodora Ofosuhima said...

thank you so much for giving me a platform to share my experience.

LOVE MELISSA:) said...

I love that you can do both! What a great post! Motherhood allows you that flexibility, however, you have to find the time to do both- which is truly hard!

Shelley Zurek -- Still Blonde after all these YEARS said...

Very impressive, I sometimes didn't even feel like I had time to breathe with even one. Don't know How you are accomplishing this. YOur husband must be a superstar.

Madame Deals said...

I agree do not forget to carve time out for yourself. It will show your child that your needs are also important.

Claremont First Ward said...

Trilingual? Now I feel so unaccomplished! :)

XOXO, Michelle said...

I have always said good mothers aren't moms with super clean houses, or perfectly piped cupcakes... its those with well adjusted, well rounded, happy children. Tend to the house when you can. Also, just something my mother in law does... she has a teenage girl come in once a week to help her clean for 20$!! Girl gets some spending money, she gets the help, and it doesnt break the bank!


Help! Mama Remote... said...

I love the way you and your hubby work together. That is key in any relationship and starting that from the begining.

Maureensk said...

It's great that you have the self-control to put your writing before housework when your daughter naps. I have a hard time with that and feel guilty and end up putting everything else first. I wish we had a writing club here!

Kim said...

It's hard to find the balance but it sounds like you're doing great! It's nice to have a helpful husband:)

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