In the blink of an eye it was time to pick up the kids. Another weird feeling crept up over me as I steered the car down the interstate. I felt level. The usual stress and exhaustion of caring for my kids all day was missing and I was relaxed. The feeling gave way to excitement see my kids because I missed them. My voice was light as I asked Marlie about her day. I noticed that I was not annoyed when she lagged behind and took forever to get in her car seat. I noticed I was not snapping at them during chaos of making dinner and getting them ready for bed. I was in a good mood!
|By Serge Melki from Indianapolis, USA (YepUploaded by russavia) [CC-BY-2.0], via Wikimedia Commons|
- not getting enough sleep makes me grumpy
- feeling overwhelmed and crowded makes me grumpy
- being rushed makes me grumpy
- neglecting myself makes me grumpy
- feeling invisible and unheard makes me grumpy
- being taken for granted makes me grumpy
I sound like a victim with no say in her life, no wonder I am in a perpetual bad mood! The good news is I do have control over my life and self-determination. The rigors of motherhood are always going to be there. I need coping techniques! So I am making "ME" the focus of my new project. The objective is to turn myself into a happy mom, one whose default setting is a good mood and whose family enjoys being around her. It begins with listing the things that make me happy and then doing them:
|What makes me happy:||How to make it happen:|
|having time for myself makes me happy||carve out alone time to pursue my interests like writing and reading|
|taking care of myself makes me happy||Exercise regularly and go to bed early|
|doing something nice for myself makes me happy||Make 1 out of 10 things I do daily just about me|
|getting help when I get overwhelmed makes me happy||Ask for help when there is too much on my plate and don't take no for an answer|
|making others happy makes me happy||spend more time playing with my kids and start volunteering|
Simple, right?! What makes you mom happy?